Perhaps we spend our energy and time trying to be what other people want us to be because we feel that who we are is not enough. We may do all we can to separate from our inner being because we are so deeply ashamed of who we are. Self-hatred is a defect of character that needs to be removed. It breeds the sin of covetousness – that is, longing to be in someone else’s situation or have what they have. The psalmist wrote, “Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous – and how well I know it” (Psalm 139:14). Saying we are God’s “workmanship” means that we are unique and beautiful masterpieces – works of devine poetry. Beauty and value are designed into the very fiber of our being by virtue of our Creator.
One important step in the recovery process is to allow God to remove our self-hatred, helping us to value ourselve for who we are. We have been miraculously created, and we are treasured by God. This has been true since the time we were in our mother’s womb, long before we could do anything to earn it! As we begin to see how unique and special we are – embraced and accepted by God himself – our strides toward recovery should grow faster and longer.